When I left you last we were at the pier looking for Celia. Well, we found her! We got married quickly on the end of the pier and there is a cute little video HERE.
Here I am signing my life away:
Then it was off to the boat for the longer ceremony!
Something that needs to be noted about water taxis, they're BUMPY! Insanely bumpy! Hilariously bumpy!
The sound system was amazing and we were able to start our journey towards the Statue of Liberty with our very own picked that morning wedding song! Standing on the boat holding on for dear life and looking over at the Seaport on our way to get married was just about as surreal as it gets.
We labored over to the front of the boat (aft? port side?) as we got closer to the Statue and the captain did his best to keep the boat steady.
We had requested that the boat stop in front of the Statue for the ceremony. That's pretty much impossible. I don't know what part of us thought that a boat had the ability to stop in a harbor, but they very technically do not. JCPE and I grabbed onto the sides and Celia rooted herself onto a bench for the official ceremony.
It was beautiful. The weather was perfect, our story is so full of love and memories that both of us were overcome with emotion. Halfway through I had to remove JCPE's glasses because I couldn't see his face due to his transition lenses! Just another reason why I love him so much. His future's just so bright!
This is the part that I don't really feel the need to articulate. Our vows are on the site so you're welcome to find them and read through them. This moment was the moment that we wanted to keep to ourselves. We didn't want microphones or a crowd of people. Just the two of as alone as you can get when you get married, listening to the waves, listening to our story. Looking at each other in awe that we were able to get this far. How lucky are we? How amazing is it that we're able to be together forever at all? Very. Very is the answer to both of those questions.
After the ceremony we sailed (rode? went?) up the Hudson for a minute then back around and under the Brooklyn Bridge. The 5 of us killed two bottles of champagne and just marveled at the beautiful day. After we headed to a cafe for lunch and Carissa, bless he heart, headed to the airport. Dave headed home to download the pictures and JCPE and I went on a long walk together. We eventually made it home and immediately fell asleep.
In the evening we called our friends and sort of successfully launched this site. We had dinner at Vesta and we went to sleep eager to wake up and head on our honeymoon!
Thank you to everyone who took part in our special day! Celia Milton, Carissa and Dave, Maura and Patrick from NY Water Taxi along with their wonderful staff you were all so amazing and loving and we're grateful that you were with us!
Birthdays are a totally different story and since I'm turning the lamest age of all time, 29, there is absolutely no reason to get me a gift! Or even, a drink which is a totally acceptable adult birthday present.
This year I'd like to respectfully request a donation to StreetWise Partners! A $5 - $10 donation will help me reach my fundraising goal (I'm so super close, it's a lot more than this $500 last push, btw)! I've made the commitment to be on the Junior Board of StreetWise as well as an Officer in their continued "Phase 2" programming because I truly believe in the mission and the positive change that StreetWise brings.
The main program is a 14 week career ventures program for low-income individuals. As a volunteer you are set up with a trainee who you help through the curriculum. You meet weekly and go over skills such as cover letter writing, resume writing, interviewing etc. As well as more fun skills like mingling at a work social event and learning a 'elevator pitch.' This year they're installing a new program where there will be monthly check ins for 9 months after the program ends. As an officer in this program I will be facilitating these meet-ups between Trainees and Mentors and I'm really excited! These relationships are confidence boosting at the very least, and life long friendships (I still look over resumes and college essays for a trainee I had three years ago).
A few years ago I was really looking for something to do with my spare time that made a difference. I really find StreetWise to be just that!
You can visit my fundraising page HERE.
I've been a bridesmaid four times now and every time is an insanely different experience. At Annie's wedding I was only 19 and even less capable of handling free champagne as I am today! Christiana's was a small affair with a view of the statue of liberty and a few family and friends (the most similar to mine, actually). Loni's was a batshit crazy Jersey fiesta of nutso that ended up being awesome, but involved the most tears. Finally, for Indika's wedding I had the absolute least to do and a dress that I'm going to wear again, so therefore the best time.
I've never been a Maid of Honor but if I were to be I'd want to emulate Crystal and her awesome ability to be on top of everything. My sister and I nabbed a few of Crystal's "Bachelorette Party Recovery Kits" full of advil, mints, lotion, coffee, shower salts (it's a thing) socks, lip gloss and a ton of other fun goodies. I actually had to check my bag on the way home because I didn't want to abandon all the lotion (and spray on hoes) that I got as gifts.
The wedding was beautiful! Indika looked phenomenal, as always. I love how as people we pair ourselves off in such interesting ways. I'm a firm believer that JCPE and I match, we're both little and brown. Indika and John are both ripped and blonde. I get genuine heart flutters when I think of my friends finding the loves of their lives. I also love so much that we have been friends for so long that my family was invited to the wedding. Thank you so much Indika and John for such a great wedding!
Also, I can't wait to see all the pictures! I never want to see the video because I realized I practiced my ONE joke with the videographer while we were taking pictures then used it in my speech! Ugh! So now I'm in the the video twice saying almost the exact same thing! I planned that poorly.
Now that we've been home there are a few ideas floating around for our December reception in Vegas. It's going to probably be a house party, it WILL involve dancing. There will be a speech by my one bridesmaid, Blair. More info and an actual date coming soon!
The big thing is, this time I found myself LOVING Las Vegas. I love that you get to wear heels everywhere because you're not walking a zillion miles. In vegas if you're not wearing heels and earrings you're wearing pajama pants, platforms and huge sunglasses. Basically, everyone looks awesome. I love that you always know what direction you're going in because you can see the mountains so it's impossible to get lost. I love that I went house hunting with my sister to look at houses that were all so far under 80K it made my head spin.
I miss my family. I miss my mom and my dad and all three of my brothers (even you, Decker). I miss Indika and Crystal and Annie and Jasen. I need to learn to drive.
I hear the west coast calling my name.
* IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN BRIDESMAIDS YOU NEED TO GO LIKE, RIGHT NOW. I have never laughed so hard in the theater ever in my life!
That's me! How old was I in that picture? 2? However old I was I was really proud that I could do things myself! I'm also proud to say that 27ish years later I still don't need glasses but every once in a while I fake it for fashion's sake!
I'm changing my name.
I'm adding the P and keeping the TVS, so I'll have four names. JCPE has four... why can't I? I can. I can do whatever I want, technically.
But I'm going by TP, officially.
I have always, always wanted to do this. I have expected to since I was very young, I don't think I even flirted with not changing my name. I think it is important to understand that name changes are a big deal, they take a long time, they're expensive ($10 a pop for 'official' copies, of which you need a zillion, ugh) and there is a lot of ground to cover (think of all the things you can't do when your ID doesn't match your cc). If it's what you want I suggest jumping in with two feet, or head first, or just diving gracefully into it!
I understand not wanting to do it. Especially now, when I've developed a branded TS life. I had to change my twitter and my website will eventually change too. I understand being angry that the girl always is the one to change her name, that makes some women feel that they are being treated unfairly by tradition. The idea that the tradition of taking on the family name of your husband would hurt you, hurts my heart. Literally, I'm sitting here and my heart aches a little. It might not have been a choice in the past, but it is a choice now. Couples who choose to spend their lives together get to pick and choose the traditions they want (Christmas tree. You betcha. Nativity? Not so much.) and I think it is beyond exciting to be at the doorstep of a life together. I'm excited and grateful, every day. I choose this tradition.
The women in my family do this: They ditch their middle name, scoot the maiden name over, and add the married name. Then later they give one or two of their children the maiden name as a middle name. For example, I am First Name, Grandma's First Name, Last Name... my sister is First Name, Mom's Maiden Name, Last Name. So Blair got the Finch in her name. A name that she plans to pass on to her children, a name that I would also like to pass onto mine in some way.
The women and men in JCPE's family do this: The children are given a first middle and last name, then when they are older they are given the choice to add the Mother's Maiden Name to the end of their name. That's why he's JCPE (while his brother's name ends in P, he didn't add on the E). The P is his last name, which is why it's now mine. The E is his mom's maiden... are you with me? So our children will be P's growing up and when they are old enough they can be PS's if they want.
Isn't that cool? There are a lot of choices.
The #1 reason that I changed my name is because I am starting a family. This is a family. It's little, family for 2 please! It will grow (nooot anytime soon, simmer down) and to me having that name is so important.
I know who I am. I am Taylor Victoria Stirek Pineiro, I am also a Finch, a Bisch, a Pomajbo, a Gralla and generations of family names that come from many different countries and backgrounds. I represent a long line of women that loved and were loved strong enough to start their own beautiful family, it's my turn.
As Celia said later, married and renewed your vows in about an hour! That's commitment!
Here I am 'borrowing' something from Carissa!
We had a frantic moment at the bar the night before where she looked at everything she was wearing to find the most suitable thing to borrow! Almost forgot!
This picture KILLS ME, it almost makes me cry there is so much love in it! It reminds me of a time when we were very first starting to date. Our first official outing was going canoeing at a lake somewhere else... this precursors the canoeing event years later when we had to carry our boats across a road a few time and I legit lost a shoe. We were brand new dating. It was us, Vic and Evelyn and Chris and Peter.
I remember being in the car and someone talking about cameras and how they wish they had remembered to bring theirs. JCPE and I were squished in the back seat in one of those super safe configurations that you do when you're young and don't care. We were holding hands as someone said "I wish I had that camera!" and JCPE looked at our hands and whispered "I wish I had a camera right now." Instantly, I was in love with him. There was no turning back from that.
The ride there was really fun, the day was beautiful. I proudly showed off my Juan ring that we got at the Chelsea Flea Market a few years ago.
We realized only the day before that the wedding was the same day as the MS walk. I totally support supporting the MS walk, but we were relieved to know that the walk ended at 1pm so we missed any concert series or cheering or whatnot that was going on.
The Seaport is very special to me. I lived half a block away at 200 Water Street when it was an NYU dorm for two years in college. I LOVED it. I was an RA, I had this HUGE studio on the 9th floor with a beautiful view of the Brooklyn Bridge. The first summer after Florence I was staying at Water Street and studying Art History so I decided the best thing to do would be to get a job at the closest museum. I walked to the office of the Seaport Museum and the manager, Patrick Glynn interviewed me for a position. Everyone else was in highschool, I think it paid around $7 an hour and mostly entailed standing by doorways and greeting guests. I loved it.
I learned a lot about the history, completed my Senior project on the area and try to go back when I can. When it came time to find a boat I contacted Patrick, who, after all these years is still so willing to step up and help whenever necessary. He no longer works at the museum but just so happens to work for New York Water Taxi. He got us a great deal, the entire taxi, champagne, a tour around the harbor for an hour! His staff was phenomenal and everything went off without a hitch!
It's such a magical thing to get married in a place you can go back to over and over.
This is JCPE trying to find Celia. We had never met in person so there was a lot of "We look like we're getting married!" and "I am near the stage!" back and forth.
Eventually, we found each other. For legality's sake we held a quick ceremony on the pier... That's up next!
The mission is simple, paint black tar roofs in NYC (and really, this works anywhere where there is an outdoors, so, everywhere) white and the building will be significantly cooler inside. Keep it white for long enough and energy costs go way down. More scientific details HERE.
Painting roofs is fun and rewarding but not cheap! We're throwing a fundraiser NEXT Monday, May 23rd at 7pm on the Lower East Side and would love to see you there!
Follow us on twitter @roofproject
So the night before the wedding I tried to meet Carissa to get our nails done but she didn't make it... 100% my fault for not giving a tired out of towner directions! We ended up finding each other on 7th ave and after a failed attempt to go to Faces & Names we decided to go to Whiskey Park where her hilarious cousin works. We spent the night chatting and drinking tequila drinks and eating cold fries (why they order from Rue 57 there and it never arrives warm, I do not know). I had woken up at 3:45 that day for the Royal Wedding viewing, so I was sufficiently tired and full and just tipsy enough to fall asleep without wedding jitters when I arrived home!
We woke up early enough, made some coffee (we didn't eat until way after, I just couldn't stomach anything!) and started to get ready. As it was the end of the month I wrote out the rent check and signed it something like Tayyy Stirrsz and took one look it and started to cry! I was like 'it's the last time I ever sign Taylor Stirek [it wasn't, still have those checks] and I messed it up!' which was followed by JCPE on the exercise bike creating a playlist for the boat, realizing that he found the perfect song and crying. [Is that song about aliens in the end?]
So when Carissa gets there at 10:45 we're a bit of a mess. I'm literally washing JCPE's white shirt in the kitchen sink and getting out the blow dryer to dry it (which I don't end up doing, I run to the laundry mat and toss it in the dryer) and JCPE is yelling 'CARISSA! I'm not a dead beat husband' and running around the living room instead of taking a shower.
Carissa did an AMAZING job! She is based out of Southern California and Las Vegas and her make-up work can be found here: www.carissaferreri.com!
I loved having her there. We met in 8th grade in Las Vegas, went to most of high school together and met up in some of the most fun ways in the years since. I visited her in Florence because I had a free ticket to anywhere in the world and she was there, we spent time together one really emotionally draining Christmas break when we both really needed a little balance and most recently she drove me to the airport last July and asked 'hey, when are you going to get married?' haha.
JCPE's idea to send our mothers roses to announce the wedding backfired when they arrived really really early. We thought that at least the flowers to Las Vegas would buy us some time (bide time? I think it's bide time...) but they didn't. While JCPE was in the shower his phone started buzzing, it was his mama. Mine texted less than an hour later.
This is me talking to my family:
So. It was hectic, but there was no turning back. JCPE went out and bought some wine we cheersed to the day and got ready to take some official pictures.
First, he waits:
Then we meet outside our home:
Next up! We drive to the seaport and try to find Celia and a special tribute to the real hero of the day:
I catch myself sometimes wanting to find a reason to regret our decision. There's still a lot of confusion, people are coming around slowly... but then I think about my wedding day. And I smile. It's uncontrollable. I told JCPE that my smile changed that day, it's bigger, brighter and I'm so much happier than I ever have been. I loved my wedding day, I love my husband. We're promised pictures tonight and when we get those you will get your stories!
Until then, I drew this picture.
If I thought eloping was hard while I was doing it I wasn't really prepared for how lonely it would be once it was all over. I genuinely thought that people would want to know what had happened, that they would reach out and want to talk about it! I'm here and I WANT to talk about it! I love answering questions and telling funny stories about the process! But, for the most part, it's been not only radio silence but the weird feeling that the topic is being avoided.
This, I think is sad. It makes me sad. I've kept this process to myself for so long and now that I'm aching to talk about it there haven't been any opportunities. JCPE is trying to make me feel better... he's totally right, we did this usually public thing very privately and I guess that just takes a while to understand that it was about me and JCPE, but our entire life going forward is about our friends and family and each other and everyone working and celebrating and living this life together. What we did doesn't at all mean that we don't want to share our life with our loved ones.
I think it will just take some time. I'll keep encouraging people to read the blog (because the answers to all the questions really are here) and once we send some save the dates for our celebrations in NY and Las Vegas maybe that will encourage people to want to talk about it, and it will feel more real! I hope so, because I'm SO HAPPY and I want to share that with everyone!
Evelyn, I can't wait to see you!
Jamie and Belinda it was great skyping with you last night! The only future technology that really terrifies me is the prolific use of video chat, I'll need a production designer for my life!