woo hoo! They're great. We had a great time dancing all night, that conga was really early.
My friend Lia took the pictures after I asked on Facebook if anyone was around to take pictures at the wedding for not-that-expensive. She did a great job!
Quick fun story that I love. Lia is the wife of my friend Josh... who was the first boyfriend I ever had, ever. In high school, for about 7 days. I think maybe we held hands once. Josh broke up with me on my answering machine, I don't even think that he did it I think his friend did. It sucked, obviously. I was super sad. But, as it happens when you are 15 I got over it quickly and Josh and I became friends and then facebook friends and then he joined the Air Force and married Lia and they have three beautiful kids and Lia and I became facebook friends and ta da, Lia took my wedding pictures.
I love it.
What an awesome circle to be a part of!
I can't wait to tell my daughter (someday) when she's sad about a dude. Growing up is awesome, you get to get married to someone awesome and so does everyone else! Fun.
We had SUCH a great time at our wedding celebration on October 22nd! You might remember that we had to change the date due to Hurricane Irene, but like you have to tell yourself for all things ever, it worked out for the best!
The event was moved to a Sat night (what part of me thought I was young enough to go to work the day after my wedding, I don't know) and the guest list more or less evened out! We missed those of you who weren't able to make it!
I had one small breakdown on the way to Costco and I got unnaturally upset at someone who was walking RIDICULOUSLY slow once we were inside costco but other than that the process of getting to the event was fine! Even when the trader joes guy had to lower a case of wine into my lap in the front seat of our packed car!
We picked up Elizabeth and her awesome stash of party goods (ice buckets, wedding wish trees, lucite stands and more!) and headed downtown. If you haven't been to GreenSpaces (Broadway and Walker) you should go, but not to go in you should walk around the building to the coooooooooolest alley I've ever seen! Actually, the ONLY NYC alley I've ever seen. You usually can't even get back there because someone is always being murdered CSI:NY style, that's how cool it is.
So we loaded our stuff in the freight elevator that backs into the alley and we had just over an hour to get the room ready! Elizabeth, Julia, Allison, Evelyn, Victor, Dana & Nicole were life savers! They hung lights, put out food, set up the speakers and helped the bartender set up! Loni & TJ arrived a little later due to their baby girl accidentally grabbing the curling iron (been there! but I was a teenager) with cake-pops and a card box!
Guests arrived, there was dancing and mingling. We did an amazing first dance (JCPE is seriously the cutest) and then it was dance party all night long! We stayed a little later than planned and the staff at GreenSpaces helped us clean up and get everything into the car (still missing - scissors, serrated knife and condiment holders). The night was capped off by a JCPE sneak-attacking me with the cupcakes! My fault for not discussing 'not smushing my face with cake' earlier!
Then we headed to a nearby dive-bar for a few more cocktails before the night was over!
[ok, ok I also fell really hard, ok?! Is that what you wanted to hear? I wanted to surprise JCPE and meet him around the corner so I ran... and I BIT IT in my crazy heels. I hope someone somewhere saw me and that it made their night a little cheerier to see a huge blue ball of fluff tumble down the sidewalk!]
All in all it was a wonderful night! We couldn't have done it without our amazing friends who supported us and moved around their schedules to celebrate with us! Thank you all SO MUCH!
I've been a bridesmaid four times now and every time is an insanely different experience. At Annie's wedding I was only 19 and even less capable of handling free champagne as I am today! Christiana's was a small affair with a view of the statue of liberty and a few family and friends (the most similar to mine, actually). Loni's was a batshit crazy Jersey fiesta of nutso that ended up being awesome, but involved the most tears. Finally, for Indika's wedding I had the absolute least to do and a dress that I'm going to wear again, so therefore the best time.
I've never been a Maid of Honor but if I were to be I'd want to emulate Crystal and her awesome ability to be on top of everything. My sister and I nabbed a few of Crystal's "Bachelorette Party Recovery Kits" full of advil, mints, lotion, coffee, shower salts (it's a thing) socks, lip gloss and a ton of other fun goodies. I actually had to check my bag on the way home because I didn't want to abandon all the lotion (and spray on hoes) that I got as gifts.
The wedding was beautiful! Indika looked phenomenal, as always. I love how as people we pair ourselves off in such interesting ways. I'm a firm believer that JCPE and I match, we're both little and brown. Indika and John are both ripped and blonde. I get genuine heart flutters when I think of my friends finding the loves of their lives. I also love so much that we have been friends for so long that my family was invited to the wedding. Thank you so much Indika and John for such a great wedding!
Also, I can't wait to see all the pictures! I never want to see the video because I realized I practiced my ONE joke with the videographer while we were taking pictures then used it in my speech! Ugh! So now I'm in the the video twice saying almost the exact same thing! I planned that poorly.
Now that we've been home there are a few ideas floating around for our December reception in Vegas. It's going to probably be a house party, it WILL involve dancing. There will be a speech by my one bridesmaid, Blair. More info and an actual date coming soon!
The big thing is, this time I found myself LOVING Las Vegas. I love that you get to wear heels everywhere because you're not walking a zillion miles. In vegas if you're not wearing heels and earrings you're wearing pajama pants, platforms and huge sunglasses. Basically, everyone looks awesome. I love that you always know what direction you're going in because you can see the mountains so it's impossible to get lost. I love that I went house hunting with my sister to look at houses that were all so far under 80K it made my head spin.
I miss my family. I miss my mom and my dad and all three of my brothers (even you, Decker). I miss Indika and Crystal and Annie and Jasen. I need to learn to drive.
I hear the west coast calling my name.
* IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN BRIDESMAIDS YOU NEED TO GO LIKE, RIGHT NOW. I have never laughed so hard in the theater ever in my life!
So. I'm a relationship person. One thing I learned about relationships (all relationships, not just romantic ones) that I think is important and if not THE rule, at least top 5... is that if you want someone to realize that something is special, you have to tell them. If it's subtle... like 'I'm really looking forward to this!' or you can spell it out like 'listen this is really important to me and it would mean a lot to me if you acknowledged it" and for the most part, people do. Sometimes they can infer but to err on the safe side just tell them.
People aren't mind readers. Especially not mind readers of a person (like me) who is consistently lying to people and trying to act un-excited about a wedding that we're planning secretly. So I literally have JCPE and my therapist to be excited towards. Am I suspiciously not-excited? I won't know until later I guess (Hi Sinead! haha).
Anyway. JCPE and I decided a while ago that we would do out bachelor/bachelorette parties they way WE wanted them to be. So, he flew to the desert and spent a week at Burning Man. And I, with my gnawing desire to just move to a suburb, wanted to have the girls over for a party. Simple. Party at my place, music, wine, cheese, activities that were fun enough to be normal but cutesy enough that I could pass them off for the lack of a shower.
So I planned said affair. I even sent the invite 4 days BEFORE we got engaged, and 7 weeks before the date. Party at my place, bring accessories to trade, bring wine there will be snacks huzzah! Alas, it wasn't meant to be. There was life in the way. Rallies and classes and babies and personal days and it's nobody's fault. I don't always go to parties I'm invited to, I think these days I stay home more often than not. So they didn't know. If I would have told them, they would be here. 110%, but it's been a long week and I totally understand not wanting to come all the way out to Astoria and there's actually a lot going on this weekend in various worlds.
So today, instead of putting on a dress and an apron and being the hostess I so so yearn to be. While my fiance is off making a movie, I will sit on my bike and order wedding rings and a suit for my handsome groom. I finished reading The Westing Game in bed this morning and I will watch Veronica Mars all afternoon and Cleopatra in the evening. I might even open a bottle of champagne later and have a glass or two by myself (ok, I probably will).
Wedding planning has been lonely. It's what we want, it's the way we want and I know in my heart that we're doing the right thing. But today, today this bride-to-be is a little sad.
From now on, I'm accepting more invitations. I want to celebrate anything celebrateable with everyone! Celebrating is important, and I'm looking forward to it!
After this though no more surprises and no more secrets!
Today is my bff Julia Hanes' birthday!! Since it's March, and this website isn't live yet Julia won't know about this fabulous birthday gift until May... but better late than never!
Julia for your 29th birthday you DO NOT have to be a bridesmaid!!!!! You. Are. Welcome!!!! No dress you won't really like, no hanging out and doing girlie things that you hate! No sitting next to me and writing down who gave me gifts as I open them in front of a crowd! No speeches! No entrances! Woooo hoooo!!! While I legit love being a bridesmaid and I know that you'd be happy to be one for me, I think it's one of the big benefits of having a bestie who chooses to elope! We will celebrate together for sure but you're off the hook for all the other stuff!