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Mormon Mommy Blogs

Confession (well, not really, it's not a secret), I spend a good deal of time reading a few Mormon-mommy blogs... for various reasons. They're cute, they're fun and most of all they remind of the option to stay at home and take care of a family, which believe it or not I haven't really 100% ruled out.

Recently a Salon.com article discussed this topic pretty much exactly:
Well, to use a word that makes me cringe, these blogs are weirdly "uplifting." To read Mormon lifestyle blogs is to peer into a strange and fascinating world where the most fraught issues of modern living -- marriage and child rearing -- appear completely unproblematic. This seems practically subversive to someone like me, weaned on an endless media parade of fretful stories about "work-life balance" and soaring divorce rates and the perils of marrying too young/too old/too whatever.

Exactly. And it's my choice to read them and feel good after I read them. This week especially I'm tired of being told to feel bad about myself if I want simple pretty things! Life is so ridiculously short. There is no after life, there are no mansions and clouds and families on a magical planet somewhere. But if that makes you feel better then go right ahead and BELIEVE that there's a place where we're all around 32 and happy. That's ok with me. I LIKE that people have faith, I think it's interesting and magical and at times very lovely. I also LIKE that I don't have faith, I like that I don't know what's going to happen. It gives me my very own taylor-made peace.

Just because I'm young and grappling with the term 'feminist' but definitely an Atheist doesn't mean that I don't have this picture saved on my dashboard:


It's Stephanie Nielsen before she got in her plane crash that left her body 80% burned. When she was just a young mother of 4 in a sort of not that great neighborhood in Arizona talking about how she bought a GUN to protect her family. Dear universe you know I don't agree with that, I don't agree with her political affiliations, I don't agree with her religion. But I love her, I love her sister a little more, and I check on those ladies every day from my desk 38 floors above central park. This picture makes me feel empowered.

I'm just making this up as I go along, like a lot of people, like a lot of women. I think it's an injustice to women to try to tell them that they've been brainwashed to feel a certain way... if something like being a Mormon, or putting on a pretty dress, or reading a fashion magazine makes you feel better and empowered I say AWESOME! Why would anyone try to take that away from someone because they're so mad at men and society? I certainty won't.

Just be yourself. If you want to talk about your religion, that's cool. If you don't that's cool too. With my marriage and my life I want to let everyone know from the get-go that I don't have any answers! I have zero. I'm not going to save the world. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever. I'm ok with that. I'm going to live my life the best way I can. I'm going to follow the Four Agreements because Bill Clinton told me to read it and it's the only book that has ever spoken to me.

I just want to tell you all that you can be whatever you want to be. Even if that is a mom, because there is no such thing as JUST a mom.

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