I get that a bunch of my friends are well, all different ages. I used to think age mattered so much, but I know now that it really doesn't. I learned so many things in my 20s that weren't really age-specific (other than that big 2-1) they were just experiences. Experiments in city living, friendship beginning and some really big friendships ending, finding the man I was going to marry right in my circle of friends all along, gaining a new beautiful family when I met his... They could have happened anytime but they happened in my 20s. I'll remember it as a decade of intense heartbreak and intense love. It was a very personal time. I will (try my hardest) to never regret where I am in my professional life. It happens when it happens... I've been growing every day.
I feel sometimes that I'm meant to be an old lady. Everything these days seems so rushed and I just want to slow down and enjoy it. I want to spend more time with JCPE, go for longer walks and grow a garden. I also am struck with the biggest wave of baby fever I have ever had. I want to be a young enough old lady to hang out with my grandkids for a while. I have some friends who are expecting their third and others who recently found out it would be impossible for them to conceive. I don't know what the future holds for us, but I know that I'm looking forward to new challenges.
Over Memorial Day weekend we stayed at a house in the Hamptons with friends, we had a lovely time. There was a large porch that overlooked a pool it just ASKED you to jump in it. We all politely agreed not to, then on the first night I'm napping (like I do) and I hear a splash and yelling and a lot of "I CAN'T BELIEVE HE DID THAT!!" I mean I didn't have to be psychic to know who it was who jumped off first!
I was angry. I said things like 'Don't be dumb I need you!' then I thought to myself, self, you never do anything adventurous isn't that the root of your problem? Indeed. So I said, FINE you want to jump off second story balconies I'm going to too!! Everyone had left at this point, which was for the best because I needed 30 minutes to psych myself up. I jumped around, I made JCPE play 'Stronger' by Kelly Clarkston three times. I took off all my clothes stood on a ledge and screamed THIS IS A METAPHOR!! To his credit JCPE just looked at me in wonder and smiled the whole time. Finally, he had to go so that I could. My husband jumped off a ledge and I followed, nude, about 20 seconds before our friends walked in the door! Just in the nick of time!
Aren't the good things often like that though?
You're ready when you're ready.
It happens when it happens.
As long as it happens.
And I think in my 30s it all will.
I'll start tomorrow. Happy almost Birthday to me!
Awhile back in November 2005 Taylor, Nicole, and I hung out. I don't think up until that point I had ever been more than a frenemy to her. We talked and joked around for the first time. Perhaps I was a little less intense than usual. I'm not really sure, but instead of hating my guts, we actually became friends. Up until now I thought there were no recorded pictures from that night. Strangely enough though, I found two images from my Palm Treo. There are ultra grainy, yet kind of cool that there is a postmark date on that first connection. Little did I know then...
I spent today looking at some of the posts on this site, something that I haven't done in a long while. It was nice to look back on all that we went through this crazy year! It was even nicer to be reminded of how lovely our wedding day was. I totally forgot that we had this video of our vows HERE.
From the evening on April 30, 2011 where we were tired and excited and scared that our friends would never forgive us and the website failing to launch... to today when we've shared our joy with our friends and families across the country and have settled into married life, I continue to have zero regrets and only be so thrilled by our very special marriage. It remains the only thing that I think we've ever done that's completely our own, I am so grateful for that!
We saw Dave last week and we laughed about how we still have his fancy shoes in our apt (we 'let' him wear his sneakers to the ceremony) and how we can't believe it's been so long! Carissa texted me to tell me our wedding was her favorite, but shhh don't tell her friends that!
So grateful to have had such amazing people with us on that day! Thanks to the generosity of other good friends we are having a fancy dinner at the Modern restaurant tonight adjacent to where we were engaged.
Tonight we celebrate 6 years together and 1 year of marriage! Cheers & thank you for all of your support!
Please join us as we kickoff the summer with a BBQ in our favorite neighborhood, the Lower East Side!
Sunday May 6th
1pm – 5pm
11BC Community Garden
626 East 11th Street (Btwn B&C)
$10 suggested donation at the door, please RSVP via facebook HERE.
We will provide the food, drinks and white roof coating demonstrations!
Come learn about simple tangible change from WRP!
I don't know why anyone uses Photoshop when clearly Paint can do everything that photoshop can! This is a simulated picture of me on V-day. I f-ed up and I'm still not over it.
JCPE is perfect. He bought me a beautiful necklace that says 'loved.' Holy hell am I lucky that I am because someone in my house is a hot mess right now (hint: it's me). I couldn't decide what to do... I was thinking I want to do something silly romantic, like the male equivalent of flowers! Then I thought oh! I'll get him actual flowers!
So the plan was three fold:
1. Wake up early and make breakfast
2. Have flowers come to his office in the middle of the day
3. Have a pizza party at home and watch Aliens
I got up at 6 and made him breakfast, that went over as well as it can when you're out of coffee and wake someone up who is confused and tired and force feed them eggs and hush puppies. Then I waited ALL day for the flowers to get to his office... finally at 6pm they arrived! Or so I thought! Actually some asshole in the building has my flowers. I don't even sort of understand. Either the delivery guy straight up lied about delivering them.... or he delivered them to what? Another person? Another floor? He just dropped them near the building and hoped for the best? Unacceptable on SO many levels.
I freaked out and shut down and took a nap, ruining all pizza party planning.
Luckily, twitter exists. I don't MEAN to exclusively complain on twitter... but it works. Often. I tweeted something snarky to @1800flowers and within 55 minutes I had my money back and a $20 credit! After my first tweet they asked me to DM them... and my DM's were more like 'actually, I'm so sorry that you're at work tonight' 'Are you ok?' 'This is probably my fault' because I can't not-apologize or think everything is my fault.
We then proceeded to eat dominos picnic style in the living room. Not a bad end to a nail-biting day of flower delivery waiting, and I think he forgives me for not getting anything after all... I got him a cute card in spanish so that must be worth something.
1. Next time I'm going pro-flowers.
2. twitter is for lovers and complainers
We'll try again next year!
While exploring the crock pot I discovered some Indian recipes I wanted to try, the aforementioned Tikka Masala was awesome. I decided that if I wanted to get serious I should get a cook book, even JCPE supports buying physical cookbooks. Possibly the last physical books we'll ever buy. I'm happy to read anything on a kindle but there's something about carrying a cookbook around the kitchen and staining it was spices and wilting the pages as you cook furiously that make a physical cookbook irreplaceable.
I bought 660 Curries on Amazon. It's awesome but REALLY intimidating. I wanted to jump right in and the first two things I've made have been... just... Ok. The first, Cauliflower with onions and peppers was WAY too spicy. The second, toasted lentils was beautiful and I think it tasted just like it was supposed to... it just wasn't really our style.
I'm a terrible learner. I get really frustrated and sad if things don't work out the first time... but hello, there are 658 MORE curries in this book, and I only did ones with ingredients I happened to have... I need to step up my game so here's the plan for the weekend:
1 - make a list of ingredients to purchase (either online or at an Indian grocery)
2 - make my own spice blends
3 - make my own ghee (butter boiled twice, sort of)
4 - make my own ginger paste
Then I think I'll be at a better place to get started! Also, the book is huge and I feel like I keep flipping to the same pages over and over. I need some post-its but I also need a little guidance. I compiled a list of 'favorites' from the stellar Amazon reviews and will start there! Wish me luck!
The Amazon comments tell me to try:
kidney beans section
marinated roast lamb
South Indian curd rice
Pineapple Chutney and have it warm, over vanilla ice cream
Spicy Potatoes and Spinach with Blackened Chilis and Coconut Milk
Cauliflower and Potatoes in a blackened red chile sauce (Alur Phulkopir Jhol) on page 481
Ginger Chicken with Peanuts and Coconut
Yogurt-Marinated Lamb with Ginger and Garlic
Brown Lentils with Chunky Onions and Chilis
Cayenne-Spiked Cauliflower with an Onion-Tomato Sauce
Sweet Potato and Plantain in a sauce of fresh and roasted coconut
Chili-Spiked Eggplant with Lemongrass & Scallions
I made the Chicken Vindloo and it was Amaaaaaaaaazing!! I didn't even get a good pic because we ate it so fast!
I had a food blog but I also got embarrassed about it, I had a personal blog and I shut it down. I feel halfway between ok and not ok all the time and I think that really held me back, sort of forever. I remember in elementary school there was this competition to go to Iceland for a science thing and I applied but didn't finish the application. Someone called my house and asked me to finish and I said I wasn't able to. What a weird thing for a 5th grader to do. I also remember very vividly wanting to win a trip to Space Camp (I KNOW and now I don't even believe in space!) and I just spent all my time hoping I would win. I think that's really telling about who I am and what I've done with my life. Working hard made me uncomfortable but I really just hope something awesome happens.
Sheesh. That's hard to talk about and makes me feel awful, but I think about it all the time... so here we are.
I guess what I'm saying is that even though I really feel like I can't possibly learn anything else... I have to keep learning. For real, and hard. If I don't push for it nothing is ever going to change. I make excuses to myself all the time like... hey! I got married before I was 30 to someone AWESOME! I make a good amount of money, I came to NYC with 4 boxes & a suitcase and now I have a home and a family here and that's awesome!
I need to work harder. This. Isn't. Enough. Not anymore. My husband gave me the confidence to do what I've done so far, I never would have joined any groups or met new people or changed jobs without his support. Now I need to give myself the confidence to do the rest.
Weird intro for a blog about taking an online course about patchwork huh?
I want to make a quilt, so I bought this online class this morning (even though I'm crazy busy right now, what is going on productivity and multi-multi-tasking)
I signed up through one of my new favorite sites Red Velvet.
* This is one of JCPE's favorite songs. On our first date we were standing in line to use the restroom in Central Park and he played it for me from his ipod.
Resolutions are whatever you make of them. I might not do everything but I like the idea of making a list of goals. Last year it was to wear fancy shoes more often and I think I accomplished that goal! This year I'm going a little deeper:
- take better pictures
- make some sort of an effort to learn Spanish
- try to get my makeup on before I leave the house in the morning
- go to the movies together every other week
- dress like a flapper more often
- spend more time with Victor & Evelyn* because we want to...
- ... move to Austin!
- complete our NYC Bucket List before we go**
**We're working on what exactly that means but to start we went to the site of the 1964 world's fair in Queens! Fun fact: BOTH our dads went to this fair! We like to think that they saw each other as 11 year olds eating the first Belgium Waffles and thought 'hey, someday our kids are going to get married! See you in 2011 in Vegas!'
* Also because when we hang out with Victor and Evelyn awesome stuff like this happens:
It's a joke about an opera... an opera in Sanskrit about Gandhi. Golf claps to us for being really really pretentious for a minute!
woo hoo! They're great. We had a great time dancing all night, that conga was really early.
My friend Lia took the pictures after I asked on Facebook if anyone was around to take pictures at the wedding for not-that-expensive. She did a great job!
Quick fun story that I love. Lia is the wife of my friend Josh... who was the first boyfriend I ever had, ever. In high school, for about 7 days. I think maybe we held hands once. Josh broke up with me on my answering machine, I don't even think that he did it I think his friend did. It sucked, obviously. I was super sad. But, as it happens when you are 15 I got over it quickly and Josh and I became friends and then facebook friends and then he joined the Air Force and married Lia and they have three beautiful kids and Lia and I became facebook friends and ta da, Lia took my wedding pictures.
I love it.
What an awesome circle to be a part of!
I can't wait to tell my daughter (someday) when she's sad about a dude. Growing up is awesome, you get to get married to someone awesome and so does everyone else! Fun.
The thing about Indian food is that you need to do a lot of shopping before you can get started. You can walk into any kitchen and make something taste Italian or Mexican or American by mixing a few spices together but Indian food is a while new ballgame. I went to Etsy for an Indian Spice starter kit from Purpose Designs, it's just what I needed!
So I wanted to use the slow cooker & make Indian, I found the perfect recipie on The Meal Planner (Via Pinterst of course)
I had made the butter chicken a few weeks ago and it was ok but holy heck the Tikka Masala was amazing! It simmers for hours and the last step is to add the cream which makes it that creamy pinkish color! I even made the rice yellow with turmeric and added peas!
mmmm hmmmm. I'm so excited to eat it again tomorrow!
Also please note I'm trying to take better picture. I'm camera shopping around as we speak!
We started with the movie that I knew I was going to love from one view of the preview.
There are few things about me you should know:
- I love Singin' in the Rain
- I love the Charleston
- I love thinking that I might be able to someday do the Charleston
- I love dressing up
These aren't key to loving The Artist but they help!
There is a point in the middle of the Artist where half the theater has dozed off (someone I know may be included in that) because there really are no words. During that point I thought... well, this is nice, I don't know if I'd do it again but it's ok. Now that it's been over for 2 hours I'd like to go again. Now maybe. Can I watch it again now? Can I have it on in the background whilst I live? If you're halfway through and you're not sure if you want to continue please do, it's worth it the last half is amazing.
I seriously would like to go again right now.
The first scene the actors are waiting for an applause. So, naturally you as an audience member are also waiting. Is it happening? Was the movie well received? You wait... and then yes! There is applause! But not outloud, you only know it because the faces of the actors feel the applause. It's the first time that you go "oh, it's a silent picture... we're really doing this. ok, let's go"
Since marrying a filmmaker I'm no film critic but I'm more aware of nuances then ever. I can say stuff seriously like - I really loved the cinematography in The Artist. & mean in. I mean it. This film is absolutely beautiful. For having the least amount of dialogue possible The Artist is so moving and so full of emotion and love and heartache. I don't even feel like I was in a theater, I sort of feel like I was there.
Last week JCPE and I had drinks at Dutch Kills, JCPE asked the bartender for something bourbon based that was delicious. The bartender delivered the Don Lockwood. It was delicious and I spent the rest of the night alternating between 'And I caaaaaaaaaaaan't stand it!' and 'Dignity, Always Dignity' in my head. (seriously just rent singin' in the rain). Well I suggest without hesitation re-naming that sucker the 'George Valentin' (that smile! Ladies, you'll swoon) at least for a year or so.
Hey Hollywood! This is a feel-good movie without the cheeseball. You just feel awesome watching it and awesome afterwards. You probably won't cry but you'll laugh out loud (there's a dog that does tricks!) and you won't leave disappointed.
Merry Christmas Friends & Family!
Well Christmas is this weekend and boy am I glad that we started our e-holiday card tradition last year so people know what to expect this year!
On December 31, 2010 Juan Carlos and I spent a quiet New Year's Eve at home. We also made the first of many wedding planning phone calls. Juan Carlos was on the phone and I remember very clearly watching him from the kitchen, hands clasped together smiling from ear to ear with my brand new 'we're really doing this' smile.
We knew that 2011 would be a year of weddings for us, but the details were ahead of us. They didn't disappoint. In February Juan Carlos surprised me with a beautiful engagement at the Museum of Modern Art where we had had our first date. In April we were married and in October and December we were blessed to be able to celebrate our marriage with friends and family in New York and Las Vegas.
2011 deserves a special thank you to our parents Victor & Lily Pineiro and Mark & Bobbi Stirek. Throughout the entire year they have supported us and loved us and let us be ourselves. The celebration in Las Vegas was absolutely perfect, we had such an amazing time! We will be posting pictures to flickr soon, sign up and add me as a friend to see them all HERE!
Thank you to all of our friends for the tremendous outpouring of love and support for our marriage! The well wishes and the gifts have been overwhelming and we are so grateful for each and every one!
Professionally, Juan Carlos is in the midst of editing his second feature film Know How. He also recently joined the team at Aha Life and has been graphic and web designing for the past few months. He's really enjoying having a 9-5 (ish) job after years of freelance work!
Our non-profit The White Roof Project is running at high speed! We had a great year, coating over 35,000 square feet of roof on Manhattan's Lower East Side and we closed out the painting year with a very successful auction fundraiser. In 2012 we will be expanding to other cities and supporting projects across the country.
I am still working at the hedge fund. Supplementing my time with a few side projects. I am running social media for White Roof Project, and have renewed my positions on the Junior Board of StreetWise Partners and on the Advisory Board of the New York City New Leaders Council. In 2012 I will be the Institute Chair for the NLC Institute and am really looking forward to working with a great group!
We have some great travel plans for 2012, in the Spring we are going to head down to Puerto Rico to spend a 'second honeymoon' at the Pineiro Apartment in San Juan! My not-so-little brother Kincade is graduating High School in June in Las Vegas and my cousin Danny is marrying Jen, a wonderful addition to the family, in October in Chicago! My sister Blair is moving to Austin this summer and there's a chance we'll get to visit her too. It'll give us a chance to you know, check out Austin. See if it's somewhere that we might want to live someday too! Slowly but surely we're being called west!
This weekend we are staying in New York for the first time ever! We are having a small group of friends over for a Christmas Eve pot-luck and will be waking up to our first Christmas morning as a married couple in our own home!
We wish you all a happy and healthy 2012! Don't forget to let us know next time you're in New York City! We threw away our big couch for a love seat and exercise bike but we'll happily blow up the air mattress for you anytime! If you're a New Yorker let us know when you're in Astoria and we'll get together!
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This is us at my 24th birthday a few weeks after we started dating.
In the beginning of 2010 (before we planned to elope) a friend asked me what my plans were for 2011. I said, very casually, well I'm going to get married. Get married, I did! To say that the wedding has consumed me would be an understatement. I feel like my head is a cloud and everything is foggy and fuzzy and in the middle is a clear picture of JCPE.
This year was for us.
Every night I look over and JCPE and say out loud 'how cool is that we get to live together!' I really am grateful that he is in my life. Every bump in the road has made us closer, and every day I'm more sure that he's the person I've always wanted.
New Year's Eve we made the first big decisions for our wedding day.
February 11th we had the most beautiful engagement ever.
April 30th got married.
May 1st we started our honey moon at Rosa Muerta.
June 10th my friends threw me a lovely bridal shower.
August 28th we planned our first reception.
September 16th JCPE's brother took him on a Bachelor Weekend.
October 22nd we finally had our first reception.
& this Saturday we are having our final reception with friends and family in Las Vegas.
12 solid months of wedding planning and celebrating really made 2011 our year. People ask me all the time if it feels any different now that we're married. We've lived together for so long and been a part of each others lives for so long isn't it a lot of the same? Actually, it is really different for one reason. We're together forever now. In a very real way. Every hope and dream that we both have for our lives are fully interconnected. There are no more decisions for just one of us, we're a family now.
I am so excited to be celebrating with our families this weekend! Our siblings have met but our parents have never met each other! They are going to have such a great time getting to know one another. I really couldn't ask for a better family in-law I'm so grateful for all the family love in our lives. We are truly lucky.
As we do the final prep for this weekend my mind wanders into 'did we do this right?' often, and again and again I am reminded of a detail that makes me remember that yes, we did. We did it for us. Every detail of our wedding day was ours. The details of our NYC reception were for friends that we love and the details of our Las Vegas reception are for the families who have given us so much throughout our lives.
Every wedding story is different. Thank all you for being a part of ours.
As for 2012. I think we're transitioning into a new space. Does that mean a new apartment, a new city, a new direction? I honestly don't know yet but I'm excited for the possibilities!