I ate a bagel so fast this morning that by the time I remembered to take a picture of my delicious bagel, it was gone. So here's the coffee I'm drinking. Diet = no milk. Right before the holidays JCPE bought us an exercise bike, initially he wanted to get two and forgo the living room all together, but we compromised on one. It's AMAZING. At first I was having issues JUST being on the bike because I'm a legit crazy person and can't JUST ride a bike and watch tv. So JCPE bought a tray, that I'm pretty sure is for sick people. (Actually the amazon comments are amazing, one guy didn't like the design so he brought it to the local community college to get re-done and now it's fine... what? Weird).
So now I spend up to 2 hours every night riding the bike, watching TV AND on my laptop. My brain might explode and I dream about food every night... but so far I feel pretty awesome! There are parts of my waist that are brand new.
Location and attendee updates expected soon! Almost at the 3 month mark!
Last night my lovely friend Carissa was in town from California, she technically lives in San Diego but she's currently a jet-setter traveling around the globe doing celebrity hair and makeup! So I wanted to ask her if she'd do mine for the wedding and I was NERVOUS about it! Then, totally without me knowing, JCPE went out for drinks with Dave, a friend from Burning Man. Juan texted me 'He said yes to photo the wedding!" And I was like, omg!!! So I asked Carissa right then and there, in a booth full of people and she said yes! yay!! Eventually it was just the 4 of us drinking and toasting and celebrating. It's SO FUN to talk about it with other people!! Especially our friends.
Part of me was like... I should show Dave what I like in terms of wedding photos... buuut you know what? I just want to let him go! He was like, I can only tell you that they're going to be just amazing! (He also said something told him that JCPE and I were going to last forever! Cute)
Thank you thank you thank you team!! We are so so lucky to have you!
Here they are (in no particular order):
Best secret wedding team pretty much ever!
In other news we're having location issues... more on that tomorrow!
The two actresses then get on the broader topic of family versus career. "I like to ask people if they would rather have a great love that lasts a lifetime or an amazing career where you go down in history," Kidman says. "Some people do answer that they want an extraordinary career."
"I know what I would choose," Aniston replies. "That's a no-brainer. I would choose the love of my life."
Ugh blah gross. That's just mean and a little unnecessary. Yesterday I sent an email to all my contacts and despite trying literally as hard as I could to make sure that it was correct I made a big mistake in it. And I freaaaaaked out. I sat on my bed sobbing. I can't do anything right seems to be the common theme in my life. I'm 28. I have no idea what I'm doing with my life.
But I have a little bit of hope. I have Juan Carlos, and I have him to support me in a career. Not just as an exchange for being unsuccessful. It's not one or the other. I will not believe that. Juan Carlos doesn't believe it either. I just happened to find love first. I WILL find a career that I love too. I will have both because I want both and I need both.
Anything else just isn't ok.
Every day I feel like I think of a zillion things to blog about. This blog that nobody will ready for 4 months or so... but still.
Yesterday I felt like I did EVERYTHING wrong. It started the day before when JCPE and I were chatting rings and I started to be like "oh, maybe we can do this, or that, or call this guy or do this thing" and finally he was like "omg! stop!" Crapfest he's totally right, I need to stop meddling! I'm crazy! It's like when my parents were deciding to get married and my mom picked out a few rings and my dad bought the cheapest one (or so the story goes). So OF COURSE for me I would try to meddle my way into having a similar story even though I swore my whole life that I wouldn't.
I'm wearing my mom's ring now. It's beautiful. She gave it to me for Christmas last year and I love wearing it. It has actually be a perfect "on the cusp of getting engaged" accessory. It's taught me responsibility (how many times one can lose a diamond ring on the spice rack is actually quite impressive) and my mind always wanders to marriage. How I want my own to be, how my parent's marriage was...
So last night after a massive day of failure (when I literally couldn't make a food decision, did a random number generator, counted down Seamless web for 123 open restaurants and ordered Sushi from the original place I had considered ordering from) I was laying face down on my yoga mat in the living room. In that exact way where you can see all the dust and dirt on the floor. JCPE came home and I said "THE FLOOR IS SOOOOO DIRTY" he said "of course it is, there's a ton of snow and ice and dirt all over outside, it's winter." As in, he doesn't care. I care, but I'm not going to care too much.
So when I think of my mother and my grandmother and their lives and their marriages I think mostly about how my Grandma told my mom that she wished she hadn't spent so much time cleaning right before she died. That was her regret, the house didn't have to be as clean as she made it, she could have spent more time hanging out. My mom has said the same thing, she's said she was sorry for being angry about messes. Not that I'll never be angry about messes, I totally will be. But, for now, I don't mind doing yoga in the middle of a dirty floor if it means that afterwards instead of swiffering and vacuuming and dusting... I can sit next to JCPE on the couch and cuddle instead, because that's infinitely more important. Thank you Mom and Grandma for teaching me that.
Last night I pickled and canned for the first time. It went like this... I make homemade soup for JCPE all the time. He calls it peasant soup since there is no recipe, it's just literally whatever we have in the kitchen thrown in a pot to simmer for a while. Any veggies fresh or frozen, maybe some beans, maybe some cous cous really whatever. I also add a few bullion cubes for flavor but they have SO much sodium and they feel creepy and fake to me all of a sudden.
So, I decided to make veggie stock so we promptly went to costco where I bought 10lbs of carrots, 5 lbs of Celery and onions and peppers and cucumbers and sweet potatoes and 20 tubes of chapstick. I made all the stock I could, I made carrot bread, I roasted I steamed I boiled, I added to pasta sauce I did everything I could and still had a ton left. So I bought all the materials for canning (which, isn't easy... we went to Ikea and Target and finally had to order from Amazon and they sent FedEx AND UPS which are both impossible. They never knock and they won't leave anything at apartments... soooo why do you exist as a company?)
Last night after phonebanking with MYD I arrived home to find all my tools in place (and most of the ingredients? I'm a tad worried that pickling is more of a science than I'm used to... since my rule of thumb in the kitchen is to make stuff up). Anyway! They're in there with peppers and garlic and dill and vinegar and the cans sealed! I was so worried that I would have the little 'pop' in the morning when they were cold but it wasn't there! Sealed in! Now my carrots are in the cabinet over the fridge, dark and cold, to wait out the next three weeks before we can eat them!
Of all the things I do and I want and I feel for my marriage one thing that I cannot deny is my uncompromising urge to cook food for JCPE. I want to do things like go out of my way to make veggie stock so that the soup I make will be healthy for him.
In return JCPE makes the phone calls that I get nervous making. He asked Target about the canning stuff, he called the Intrepid, he orders take out over the phone because I can't handle it.
I guess it took all that to get to the point that I love that I know he'd just eat ramen without me and he knows I hate talking on the phone. So we look out for each other.
The religious implications of being married at the very core make me furious. The Atheist that I am cannot resist the urge to shake at the core [see, I said core again! It’s shaking] and yell – well, yell some not nice things that involve bad words and all caps and exasperated sighs of disbelief. Sigh [another sigh, not my day]. It’s not my place to say anything that might make you angry at me, or to say anything you feel like you need to defend yourself [that might make no sense, I've edited it a zillion times!]. You can do whatever you want, and so can I, that’s the point. It’s just that. I’m so sick of hearing the same thing read at weddings over and over, and I am eternally grateful that however spiritual my partner is, he is willing to coexist in my life where I enjoy watching Easter Parade, giving gifts at Christmas and being blissfully at piece with the notion that nothing happens when you die, so just live a good life while you can.
Today I remembered that I had Liz Gilbert's Committed on my ipod. I had started 'reading' it before but didn't really get into it (I gave it 16 minutes).Today I had to lug my computer into the city so I left my kindle behind and decided to begin the book again. Perfect timing for someone who just realized that... woah, hey! I might not know what marriage is about. It's true. We've lived together for 3+ years and we share a lot and we've been through a lot, but being married is going to be different. Just by design.
When I look at JCPE I feel very very almost extraordinarily like, I can't wait to see you when we're old. It's going to be a long path, there's going to be a lot that happens. I feel ridiculous saying that. Well of course a lot is going to happen, and it won't all be good, and it won't all be expected, but at least we'll be together.
In Committed the first thing that struck me (in the first hour or so) was the idea that no matter what happens you have a place to sleep together and how important that is. Just the laying down and going to be together and waking up and starting each day together (and like I told JCPE at dinner today, he could totally murder me if he wanted to, but he doesn't, that's trust there my friends!). I'm looking forward to finishing the book and the next few months really settling in and trying to understand what marriage IS.
JCPE burnt a pot full of coffee on the stove today and the entire house smells like burnt coffee... but it's ok because he was talking to Greg on the phone! Our good friend who agreed to officiate the wedding! He, and the guy from Rosa Muerta, are the only people who know! Greg, thank you for going on this journey with us.
I'm talking to Gugs on the phone right now! Hi Gugs! I'm pretending that we're still going to get married in PR! Please don't kill me when you read this in May!
Wooo (ok, Juan made it) (and I freaked out just in case someone types in taylorplusjuan.com before April 30... I mean, they totally could right, because that's hilarious?)
Welcome to the archives! Sometimes (a lot of the time) when I'm bored I find random blogs of happy couples, and I look into the little window to their lives and I think, wait I'm super happy too! Then I spend my day looking through the archives at their happy lives... soooo.... HELLO Assistants!!! Welcome ladies! It's awesome that you made it this far, I'm happy to give you something to do today!
Anyway! We're nervous and excited! I'm going to post a lot in the next 111 days (yeah, signed up for theknot.com today) so it'll be a lot of content but hopefully it'll help explain why we did it this way!
We have had a such challenging and amazing year! Taylor has been President of the Manhattan Young Democrats. Juan Carlos founded an environmental non-profit called "White Roof Project" dedicated to lowering energy costs in big cities. Among a zillion other 'after-school' activities!
The most important thing we've committed to this year is reducing waste and clutter! Not only did we donate a ton of stuff to charity, but we're counting this as our ‘official’ holiday card! Feel free to print and tape to doorways and mantels!
We're spending the holidays in Charlotte, North Carolina with the Pineiro Family and are looking forward to seeing the Stireks in Las Vegas when our good friends Indika and John tie the knot this May! All the best to you and yours this holiday season and beyond!
Yes, we're totally serious. We eloped. Crazy, right? Don't worry we didn't tell anybody! I know, I know we wanted to have you there with us too, and we WILL call you! This is just the easiest way to let everyone know at the same time! About a year ago we made the decision that we wanted to have our special day be just for Taylor and I. The more weddings we attended the more we thought, man this just doesn't feel like US, and yet we really want to BE married. Then we had an epiphany, we can do it any way we want! So we did what felt right, and had a private ceremony and a secret honeymoon!
Taylor has been blogging for the past 5ish months so check out the archives to get a sense of the journey! Inside you'll learn exciting things like the evolution of "Team Pineiro," decor and clothing decisions and most importantly how someone planning a wedding can STILL be SO SO surprised by an engagement!
We're looking forward to telling everyone and celebrating together!
We got married on a water taxi in front of the Statue of Liberty! That same Statue that welcomed millions to this great country welcomed us to our new life!
We recommend our officiant, Celia Milton without hesitation. She is registered in New York and New Jersey and you can learn more about her HERE.